If You Can’t Do This On Your Own, You May Never Find Lasting Love

Humans are pack animals. We are designed to live, eat, work and play together. When we are single, in most cases, we are continually scanning and searching for the ideal mate to connect with and share our lives with. It is an instinctive, healthy drive.

if we don’t possess a healthy sense of self, we match up with someone who perfectly fits the pieces of us we have discounted, disowned and rejected.

For example, let’s say you are a woman who grew up with a distant, emotionally unavailable father. You may choose a man where you have to ‘work hard’ for his attention. Initially, you have strong chemistry with this man and you feel like you can’t live without him near you.

Soon, within three months to three years, you find he drives you crazy and not in a good way. The very needs you want met, he seems unable to even see, never mind fulfil. You want affection, adoration and gifts, and he grants you the occasional dinner out and some quickie sex.

What do you do? You do more for him. You cook him more dinners at home, dress up in sexy lingerie, and suggest therapy. It doesn’t do a damn thing to get back to those hot sexy days when you first met. And the more you do for him, the less he feels he has to do to woo you. The relationship fizzles. And the cycle begins again.

There is a way to break this cycle but 95% of the people who read this article won’t do it. I dare you to do it. If you do, you become a part of what I call the 5% club. The 5% club is the most exclusive club in the world. This is the club that no one invites you to join and only you can accept or reject yourself.

This club is called self-love. To achieve self-love, it is vital to develop your ability to receive… receive love, support, and help. To accept a compliment with a simple ‘thank you’ instead of a long story about how you bought the dress on sale after a friend told you about it, blah, blah, blah.

To love yourself, you also must develop your selfishness muscle.
If you really crave true romance and an IDEAL partner, here are my 5 tips for making sure YOU are ready to receive love before you enter the dating market:


1. Write out your intention for the relationship. How do you want to feel and be treated? How does your partner live their life? What is your spiritual goal for the relationship?

2. Make a list of all the things your previous partners had in common – the good, the bad and the ugly. Then, next to each item, make a note if it reminds you of one or both of your parents.

3. Make a list of what you most want to receive in the relationship. When you have a partner, ask them to do the same and trade lists. Are you willing to love them in the way they want to be loved so you can be loved in the way YOU want to be loved?

4. Track how you spend your time for one month. Now, going through your time inventory with a highlighter and highlight all the activities you love doing. In another colour pen, circle all the activities you don’t like doing. Are you willing to be self-loving enough to ditch, delegate or re-design these activities to suit you?

5. Create a dream board that contains images that reflect your true feelings about love, relationships, sex, marriage, family. Put it in a place where it’s the first thing you see when you wake up in the morning and the last thing you see before you go to bed at night. You are programming your subconscious to help you focus on attracting what you most desire. For additional success, release everything materially that isn’t useful, beautiful or essential to your life. Make sure that whatever you put your eyes and hands upon stirs love in your heart.

Hmmmm I found this on www.yourtango.com and thought to share.Hope its useful,you can visit the website for more articles.XoXo

Role Playing 2

Hello all, I apologize for not having blogged in a while,after my first post on role playing,i got a lot of emails asking me to do a post on it explaining step by step so i thought to share some tips.Let's go!

If you missed the first post,check this link:- http://pleasurechestng.blogspot.com/2013/02/happy-valentines-day-ladies.html



So today,we are starting by explaining what role play means.It means dressing up to imitate a particular character,We all did this as kids right?For all of you that didn't get serious with it then Hmmmmm its BACK!



If you've never indulged in role playing sex or anything close to this before, then you may think the whole game is just hilarious. And extremely stupid but like it goes with everything else, you never know what you’re missing until you try it! Wearing costumes while having sex may make you feel uneasy and uncomfortable, but the more you feel the part, the more the fun for both of you.

There are many delightful ways to bring role playing and fantasy games into your bedroom,One form of role playing is to have both of you act out one another's secret fantasies. Maintaining a non-judgmental attitude toward whatever your partner reveals is important. Only then can you create an atmosphere of safety and trust that allows for a deepening of your erotic bond.

For example, if you fantasize about being kidnapped and ravished by a pirate, you might ask your partner to don an eye patch and a gold ear ring, sweep you up into his arms, carry you to bed and secure your wrists to the bedpost while he calls you his "wench" and has his way with you.
Or, perhaps you have a fantasy about directing or starring in an X-rated film. As the director, you may wish to instruct your lover on how to strip for the camera, how to model sexy lingerie, how to play with sex toys, recite an erotic poem, sing a suggestive song or perform a sensual dance.
You and your partner also can role-play yourselves at a different age or in a different setting than your bedroom. For instance, you might pretend to be a couple of lusty adolescents about to make love for the first time in a parked car.

Sexual role play isn't unheard of, and most of us may even have indulged in it without actually realizing it.Even the most passionate sex can run out of passion and even the most intimate acts of sexual ecstasy can run out of steam after a while.It’s at times like these when sexual role play and costumes can save your bedroom woes, and help you reignite the passion in the sack.Even the happiest couples in love can suffer from a drought in their sex lives.
You could be madly in love with your partner, but quite frankly, emotional love and mad, sexual passion are two completely different things.You could actually be in love with someone and yet, lust about another person.

Sexual role play cannot be learnt from a book or from someone else’s mouth, it has to be experienced. And you’ll have to understand what turns you and your partner on better than the other role playing characters. But once you’re comfortable with the act of sexual role play and costumes, sex can become as exciting as your first night together, because, literally speaking, the person you’re having sex with is, a totally different character!


For beginners, you could just play along without the costumes, and opt for roles that wouldn't make you uncomfortable. Choose to be a delivery girl instead of a stripper, or opt to be the plumber instead of a doctor.After you've done it a few times, you can move ahead with more adventurous role playing sex games that both of you will be eager to explore.

Learning how to role play can be exposing and awkward at times, but with time, you would learn to enjoy yourself and be comfortable with your own body, even if it’s a bit on the fatter or skinny side. Be prepared to experience something new, and enjoy yourself.

Choosing your characters to role play

Choose a character that has always enticed or motivated you, something that gives you a boost of sexual adrenalin, and let your partner choose one that suits them. But remember, the characters that both of you choose should be able to blend with each other. A few of the all time favorite role playing sex characters that are preferred over the others all across the world include these.

Teacher – Student

Slave – Master

Plumber- Housewife

Photographer – Model

Escort – Client

Doctor – Nurse

Stripper – Client

Fireman – Trapped person

These are just a few of the different characters that you could opt to play, and if you have the perfect costumes to go with it, you could guarantee yourself a totally wild night of role playing sex.



The rules of role playing sex

Knowing how to role play in the game is the most important part. Enjoy the game, even if your lover decides to dress up like the Giant Horny Bird or as the Fat Bastard from Austin Powers, just go with the game. You’re doing this to make sex a lot better for the both of you, so avoid judgment, unless of course, your partner’s costume or behavior grosses you out.



Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in role playing sex, and overdo it once in a while, so if anything gets boring or uncomfortable, just cut it out. Learn to have good sexy conversations to turn each other on.

And most importantly, before you even think of shedding your clothes, shed your inhibitions! Or you wouldn't be able to pull off something that can excite the both of you.
Once you’re comfortable with the theme of your role playing sex game, learn to dress the part. Accessorize, use the right kind of perfume, dress well and behave the same way. A few minutes into the game and you would be aroused a lot more than you would have ever thought. So play this game with the right spirit and interest and you’d flood the sheets before you’re done!



Let me share 2 or 3 i have in my head now. Lol

1. The working girl. The working girl role-play scenario takes on many forms but the basic idea behind it is that you need to earn money from your man by doing exactly what he wants. This could take the form of being his personal stripper, escort or even maid.

So he gets to tell you what to do but you get to charge him for it. He needs to start by telling you what to wear for your appointment with him. It could be a sexy dress, lingerie or nothing at all. Remember, it's his choice, but you get to charge him for it.

You can meet him at home or if you want to start somewhere more public, try meeting him at a classy bar. When you meet, remind him that you are working but if he is willing to pay he can get some "extra special" attention.

You can try acting a female stripper,you dance,give him lap dance and strip and he is NOT allowed to touch you.Company Policy(LOL)You can break the rule,charge him extra to touch you at least no one is watching.
You can also be a call girl,he is NOT allowed to kiss you,that will drive him crazy,he wants anal,he will pay extra as that wasn't part of the agreement.Its fun.Hehehe

2. Naked maid. The naked maid is a role-playing idea where you are going to be in a submissive position, while your man is going to be watching and directing you during it. If your man has voyeuristic or domination fantasies, then he will love this one. And if you love the idea of being watched by someone, then you will love it too.
All you are going to be doing is cleaning your house/apartment but ... you're going to do it while naked. The whole time, your man will be directing you around the house/apartment telling you what to scrub and clean.

Maybe he feels that the floor needs more attention and wants you to get down on your hands and knees to clean it properly or perhaps he'd like to see you working with a feather duster. Whatever it is, it's up to him to decide.
You don't necessarily need to be fully naked for this role-play idea, you can also do it wearing lingerie or even a maids costume. And don't forget to switch roles too!

3. Cop and criminal. This next role-play idea is very fun if you like the idea of dishing out some punishment or being the one on the receiving end of some punishment from your man. If you want to be the one dishing out the punishment, then obviously, you're going to be the cop and the person who wants to be on the receiving end is going be the criminal.

If you are the cop, then you need to start off the fantasy by catching your man in the act of doing something naughty, bold or even criminal. Then you need to decide what to do to him for punishment...

Tie him up and spank him?
Strip him naked?
Be the corrupt cop who demands favors from him in return for freedom?


These are just a few ideas of what you can do with your man to punish him but feel free to experiment with other ideas of your own. You might also like the idea of trying out restraints/handcuffs to take this role play to the next level.

You can also role play with your profession.Are you a lawyer?how about playing with your partner like he is a client that doesn't have enough money to pay for your services and you are thinking he or she can pay in kind.

Are you a doctor/nurse hmmmm that is the best part of the job.Your partner becomes your patient.YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO.

Are you a photographer?do you do photo shoot for models well you got a model in your partner now.DO YOUR THING.


That will be all this week,drop your questions the usual way,comment on this post or email info@pleasurechest.com.ng



We’re trying hard to create better relationships in the world.
But we can’t do it without YOU!
Enjoy


N.B We have bedroom costumes if you want to get started.check out www.pleasurechest.com.ng if you are outside Abuja,Abuja residents please come to Suite SA 92 New Banex Plaza,Wuse2.

How To Use a Cock Ring

Many folks equate sex toys with vibrators, and vibrators with women. But men enjoy all kinds of sex toys (including vibrators) and one of the staples of their toy box is the cock ring. A great toy for solo or partner play, the cock ring (also known as a penis ring) is a strip of material or a continuous O-ring designed to restrict the blood from flowing out of the penis, which can prolong an erection. Why wear a cock ring? Lots of reasons! They temporarily create more sensitive, intense and hard erections, and can even help some men delay ejaculation. (Of course, everybody is different, and not all men respond to cock rings the same way. For some, the intense sensations caused by the cock ring make them come faster.) Will cock rings make your penis bigger? Sorry guys, but not in the long run. They may enlarge it temporarily, but repeated use of cock rings won't result in any permanent changes.

*Pick a Style, Any Style
There are many kinds of cock rings, but if you're new to cock rings, you'll want to choose one that's adjustable and easy to remove.

*Adjustable cock rings. An adjustable cock ring is great for beginners because it's easy to put on and can be removed in a snap. Julian's Stud Ring works like a little bolo tie, with a bead that slides along and adjusts the tightness easily and comfortably. When you're done, just loosen and remove!

*Continuous, O-ring-style cock rings. The less expensive styles like the Nitrile Cock Rings are great for first-time users. They range in size (and despite their small diameters, they do stretch a lot), and they're not too difficult to get on.

*Vibrating cock rings. These offer an extra buzz to the penis or testicles, and are extremely popular for the clitoral stimulation they add for women during partner sex. They're typically rings with a small vibrating attachment, like the translucent Duet Vibrating Cock Ring (which has two vibrators — one for his balls, one for her clit) or the Sonic Ring Kit.

Prep your gear. If you're using a stretchy O-ring like the Nitrile Stretch Cock Rings, you might want to stretch them out over a shampoo bottle for a few hours. Masturbate or fantasize in order to perk up your penis, as cock rings are easier to put on if you're semi-erect.

Lube up. Particularly if you're using a rubber or seamless O-ring, put some lube on your penis and balls, so the cock ring will slide on more comfortably.

Location, location, location. Cock rings typically are worn around the base of the cock and the balls. You can just wear it on the shaft (and by all means, experiment!), but cock rings function the most effectively when secured around both the scrotum and cock. This allows blood to flow into the erection, but not out, so hardness and sensitivity increase.

Put cock rings on when you're semi-erect. If you've got a solid cock ring, first pull the loose skin of your scrotum through, then drop one testicle through, then the other, and finally push your penis through.

Masturbate. Once you've become accustomed to the sensations your cock ring creates, try masturbating. If your ring is the vibrating type, you can experiment with pointing the vibrating portion on your testicles for an extra buzz.
Make a statement. Get into the fantasy surrounding your cock ring. Whether you're showing off a festive adornment as part of a striptease, wearing it under your clothes to show off your package, or telling your lover you're proud to be submissive by wearing a locking cock ring, play up the erotic potential of your toy.

Cock rings are fun for silicone dicks, too! Strap a colorful or sexy leather ring on a dildo to dress it up.
Share it with a friend. Vibrating cock rings like the Sonic Ring Kit and the Tor vibe are designed to offer female partners clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Position the vibrator near the top of your cock (or the dildo if you've got a strap-on) so that during intercourse it bumps up against her clitoris. Keep your body down parallel to hers and try slow, shallow thrusts to make sure she receives consistent contact with the vibrator. Or try it with her on top, moving in more of a grinding than up-and-down motion.

You can get cock rings from our shop or website www.pleasurechest.com.ng

How to Start Exploring BDSM

What does BDSM Stand for, Anyway?

First, let's define BDSM. It's a fairly recent term that encompasses consensual explorations of sensation and/or power dynamics. Categories like Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism are part of BDSM and can include acts like biting, spanking, tying up your partner, wearing nipple clamps, playing with sensations like ice cubes and hot wax, making use of blindfolds and gags, and role-playing, such as partners taking on dominant and submissive roles.

The most common question we hear is "But why would anyone like pain?" Remember that BDSM is an exploration of erotic sensation. Being blindfolded and tied up while your partner massages your shoulders and then drips hot wax on your back is a very different experience than visiting the dentist for that long overdue cleaning. When aroused, our bodies process sensations differently, and sometimes a bite or a spank can suddenly feel exquisite.Hehehe

People love BDSM because it gets their motors revving. It's fun, exciting, and it feels good. It can be an emotional thrill, a great way to reinvigorate a relationship, or to connect with a partner and create intimacy. BDSM isn't just a different kind of sex. Elements of BDSM that make you hot can be incorporated into your current sexual repertoire.
"Safe, Sane, and Consensual"

That’s the motto of the BDSM community. While a BDSM exchange can look intimidating, it's important to know that the people involved have talked beforehand and decided what they would like to experience together It's this process that clearly separates BDSM from abuse. Communication and consent are the tools that people who enjoy BDSM use to keep themselves and their partners safe.

Some people are afraid that if they consent to some aspect of BDSM play, they'll never be able to say “no” if they decide they don't like spanking or bondage after all. Remember that you are in complete control of how you act on your desires. And you have a right to use your safeword, change your mind, or re-negotiate at any time.

Other people are afraid that once they experience stronger sensations, they will want more and more. That might happen, but it's unlikely that trying out a set of nipple clamps will be a one-way ticket to the dungeon(Do we have any in Nigeria?)and a full-time master/slave relationship.

Let’s Get Going!
So how do you get started exploring BDSM? For many people, the biggest obstacle to introducing BDSM into a sexual relationship is bringing up the subject with a partner. It's scary to express your desires about something that some folks consider "sick" or "perverted." First, congratulate yourself for being in touch with your fantasies. It's hard to even know what we like in this sex-phobic culture. Then, take a deep breath and consider these suggestions:

*Read fifty Shades,the whole 3.Trust me you will be tempted to try some things.


*Try a massage Candle


*Under the Bed Restraints


*Sex Swing


*Neck and Wrist Restraint


*Another suggestion is the Bondage 101

Bondage 101 is a kit that allows you to safely explore the curious world of restraints, dominance, pleasurable pain, and submissiveness. Each game card is designed so that you take role play or sex play techniques to your comfortable limit. Play as a game or simply use one card for each adventure.The kit includes: 36 Bondage 101 adventure cards, two dice, a wooden paddle, a mask, a long black scarf and game rules.

Before you try anything,check the following tips:-

*Talk about it. If you and your partner don't routinely talk about sex, get into the habit. You don't have to blurt out "We need to talk about our sex life!" to get the ball rolling. Using sentences like "I love it when you ________" and "You’re so sexy when you ________" is a great way to start conversations about sex. Find vocabulary that seems right to you. It's guaranteed that the first few sentences of your first conversation will be the hardest, but rest assured—it will get easier.

*Make a list. One of our favourite tips for kick-starting conversations about sex is the Yes/No/Maybe list. Together you and your partner write down every dirty, naughty, far-fetched sexual act you've ever heard of, and then each person categorizes these acts under the headings "Yes! I’d love to!", "No! I’d never ever do that!" and "Maybe, if the conditions were right." You may have sexual interests in common that you've never explored!

*What turns you on? Explore what turns you on by reading erotica or watching porn. If you find a BDSM moment that gets you going, share it with a partner. Marking a story in a book or magazine and saying, "I thought this was hot!" can be easier than bringing up the subject independently. Check out the erotic novel Fifty Shades of Grey, or pick up the Fifty Shades of Grey Book and Bondage Kit.

*Educate yourself. Check out The Topping Book and The Bottoming Book or any other book on bondage, BDSM, and SM. All of these resources offer reassuring encouragement about exploring BDSM.

*Safety first. When partners negotiate, they usually designate a safeword. A safeword allows you to withdraw consent at any time if the action gets too intense. Some common safewords include "red" to mean "stop now" and "yellow" to mean "slow down" or "let's check in with each other."
There is a Sex bell you can also use to safeword,you just ring the bell to alert your partner to slow down or stop instead of screaming STOP and spoiling the show.


*Start small. If you want to re-create the ideal BDSM fantasy you’ve been having for years, what do you do if the fantasy involves elaborate costumes, exotic scenery, and multiple actors? Keep it simple. Isolate one part of the fantasy that makes you hot—like a particular power dynamic or a specific action like spanking—and try out that part.You can try a bondage tape,check picture below.



*Get all tied up. If you want to restrain your sweetie in a snap, it's worth a small investment in a pair of nice Cuffs. While silk scarves or metal handcuffs are tempting, both can tighten unexpectedly and restrict circulation. If you like the look and feel of rope, search for something soft and sensual at the hardware store. Don't let your lack of a knot-tying merit badge keep you from tying each other up! Make sure that knots aren’t too tight by using the two finger rule. You should be able to slip two fingers comfortably between the rope and your partner’s wrist or ankle.


*Brand spankin' new. Spanking is a great BDSM tool to incorporate into a current sexual relationship. The best way to start is with your hands, so you know exactly how hard you are hitting. Aim your strokes for the fleshy areas of the body that have large muscles to absorb the impact. The butt and thighs are popular choices. Avoid the kidneys, joints, feet and hands. If your hands get tired easily or your sweetie yearns for different sensations, the Lollipop is an excellent impact toy for beginners.

*Nipple clamp. Nipple clamps (also known as nipple clips) are a great way to add stimulation while keeping your hands free for more fun. And they're not just for nipples! You can use clamps anywhere you can pinch an inch of skin. Look for adjustable clamps like Clover Clamps and Tweezer Clamps which allow you to control the amount of pressure exerted. If you're using clamps on someone else, it's good to remember that the most intense moment is when you remove the clamps and blood comes rushing back to the area.


You can get bondage items on our website to try BDSM.Just click on the BONDAGE category on our website www.pleasurechest.com.ng and explore*winks*

Role play tips 1

Happy Valentines Day Ladies.
Do you have a boo? Wanna blow his mind? Read the following tips and change from the usual jumping jumping mummy and daddy style.Lol

Role playing is something we all enjoyed as kids right?It means dressing up to imitate a particular character but we didnt know this will be useful later. Here we go.You can be creative and form a lot of things in your head or you can pick from the 3 examples stated here.This 3 are for beginners. More to come*winks*

School Teacher and Student: This is the easiest for beginners.You can play the student and he does the teacher and you get to sleep with him for extra marks.Do this on a table, act it out like you are getting paid for that role.
The guy can say "I think you need to stay after class for some private tutoring." You can get a complete school girl costume or turn a dress,stocking and tie into one.
With one or two scenarios available here,you have the option as to who takes the dominant role. Option 1: A disciplinarian head mistress punishes the naughty school boy for persistently bad behaviour. Here she will make you write down and repeat all those dirty (sexually related) sentences you wrote down and read them back to her. There’s a chance she could well spank you - you'd better be man enough to take it. Option 2: A mini skirted school girl refusing to conform to school dress policy is sent to her head master who proceeds to lay her over his knee and dish out a pleasurable form of discipline.Hmmmmmmmmm

Flight Attendant and Passenger: You turn boo into your passenger and flirt with him by asking "Coffee, tea,... or me?"He will choose you of course.

Homeowner and Plumber: Turn him into a plumber and start giving orders"Hurry, I need you you to unclog my pipes!"

So ladies its valentine, Do what you havent done before.Try one or all of this 3 and check back for more,so many options to pick from. Nurse-Patient,Photographer-Model,Driver-Tourist.Oh that reminds me, I havent arranged my outfit for tonight.Gotta go,Cheers to the freaking night.kisses

Drop your comments and questions and remember you can get bedroom costumes from our shop at SA 92 New Banex Plaza, Wuse2.

Rose Petals:- 10 romantic ideas for using rose petals

Here are romantic ideas for using rose petals:






Run a hot bath and add the rose petals to the water. You can do as little or as many as you like, but in our experience, adding a lot sets the mood. Light floral scented candles around the bathroom and turn off the lights. This intimate bath will be like no other.
If you own a hot tub, float rose petals atop the water. You may want to leave the jets off for the time being so that your filter doesn't fill up with rose petals. If you have room on the sides of the hot tub, light a few candles for added intimacy. Want to get risque? Get in the rose covered tub in the nude.

If you have a pool rather than a hot tub, float them in there. You won't be able to use as many, but the lights from the pool reflecting on the rose petals will be romantic none the less. For a little extra excitement, try skinny dipping in your rose covered pool.

Spend the night at a hotel in a room with a Jacuzzi bath. Light some candles, distress, and rejuvenate your relationship for the night.
Get intimate in the bedroom by spreading rose petals all over your bed. You could try satin sheets and then spread the rose petals all over the sheets instead.
Plan ahead and put rose petals on the blades of your ceiling fan above your bed. When you're laying in bed, have the ceiling fan, turn the ceiling fan on so that the two of you are showered with rose petals.
Leave a trail of rose petals from your front door leading to your bedroom. Be waiting for your sweetie on the bed in sexy lingerie... possibly red like the rose petals.

Want to get even more intimate with rose petals? Surprise your sweetie in bed with nothing on except rose petals covering your intimate areas.
Spread rose petals all over your dining room table, get out your good china, and enjoy a romantic dinner for two by candlelight.
Fill her car with rose petals as a surprise for to find before work. Attach a note to her steering wheel that says "I'll say she looks as clear as morning roses newly washed with dew. - William Shakespeare"

One final word of caution. Roses are often sprayed with herbicides and pesticides to preserve them. If you plan on floating rose petals in water, you're better off purchasing the freeze-dried petals rather than picking the petals off an actual rose.

How to make your woman feel sexy

What's the best way to make your woman feel sexy and attractive?No,it's not by buying her gifts like perfume,chocolate etc; you have to show her that you're still uncontrollably attracted to her in a positive way. Again, not by trying to probe her with your manhood at every given opportunity.You guessed it,I'm talking about the roots of romance, namely LINGERIE.

I know when you guys probably walk into a lingerie store,you always feel like a baby who's been asked to dissect a nuclear warhead -- oblivious. Well, that is why I made up this post to teach you some things you should know about women's naughty wear and I am here to teach you the ABC's, or rather 34C's, of lingerie.

Don't Neglect The Negligees
Negligees are basically any item of lingerie that resembles a dress (mini or floor length).
The most flattering negligee is the Baby Doll design, which basically starts out tight around the breasts and then opens up (it's usually see-through; yum) and stops right under her buttocks, yet another bone -us.

Another wonderful thing about the Baby Doll design is that many of them are open down the middle starting under the breasts, which in turn, gives "easy access" a whole spanking new meaning*wink.

Another hot seller is the Chemise that is basically a silky plain mini dress that drapes her body and ends at her thighs.Oh, I forgot the best part; most of these negligees come with G-string or thong underwear.Can I get a yayyyy?

I Wanna Be Your Teddy
Teddies are nice to look at, to say the least. They resemble one-piece, kinky bathing suits, and come in a variety of styles: G-string, see-through, high-cut, and push-up (for breasts, naturally).

I am very sure as a man,your "little man" probably isn't thrilled when your woman removes her outer layer of clothing only to be donning a beige, worn-out bra and white underwear -- and grandma's variety at that.Lol

Perhaps she's just comfortable around you, or maybe she literally has no idea that a thong might drive you to insane proportions. Whatever the case, perhaps it's time you bought her some nice bra and panty sets. She'll appreciate and trust me, you'll alleviate.

There are all kinds of sets you can buy. The bra comes in a variety of styles, but Push-Ups are the yummiest. There's nothing like watching your woman prance around in a cleavage-enhancing bra and a tight, low-cut top.

And for the oblivious men who still don't understand how bra sizes work,the letters (A,B,C,D and for you lucky guys DD) connote the size of the breast while the numbers (32, 34, 36, 38) describe the measurements around the back.

Shall we move a little lower, say, down south???

Under Where?

Then there's the underwear: Thong, G-string, Crotchless... ah the scrumptious list goes on and on.Remember that although men would like to ensure that women basically have a thong plastered to their body virtually every day, sometimes they're not very comfortable. So I suggest that you buy her a really nice bra with a variety of underwear (all the ones mentioned above).

Make sure that the underwear you purchase has cotton lining on the crotch (for hygienic purposes), unless of course, you plan to take it off the instant she puts it on.

Guys,If bras aren't your thing and you don't seem to have any luck removing them though some guys can remove it with one hand -- or even their teeth,hahaha!, why don't you buy her a Camisole instead? These silky tank top-like pieces of clothing are easy to put on, nice to feel up, and even easier to take off.Can i hear thank you?*smiles

There are some camisoles that do have bra-like clasps and although they're nice, you're better off buying them if you want to see her do a little dance for you before you slowly ease into your ram ification session.

You can even pamper her with a Sexy Lace Chemise... who am I kidding, I meant pamper yourself.

Next to the chemise, another sexy item that would definitely get your blood flowing to the soldier down below is a Bustier (pronounced boo-stee-yay). Yeah, the name might sound complicated, but believe me, this contraption pushes up the breasts, shrinks the waist, and provides that overall hourglass look every woman says she wants.

And of course, all this talk about lingerie would be useless if I failed to mention every man's fantastical dream of watching his woman remove her clothing only to find that she is wearing a crotchless body stocking underneath. Omg It would be such a high to just do your thing without removing the stocking.Sexy ain't it?

When In Robe...

Making sure your woman is comfortable can likely ensure your own comfort. Draping her sexy body in a silky floor length or ¾ length robe will definitely make her feel like a horny housewife.

But silk isn't the only available option; there are also velour, terrycloth, chenille, and thermal knit robes for your lovely lady. Picture wrapping it around her naked body only to get your hands inside and feel your way around.Sounds tasty, doesn't it?

And what should she be donning under that robe? Well, preferably nothing, but perhaps she would like to tease you just a little longer with a seductive T-Shirt and Thong duo.

Know When To Hold 'Em
Asking her what she wants kind of defeats the purpose and the element of surprise. Try to be considerate; don't show up with a G-string that's two sizes too small and a bra made for Malibu Barbie -- she won't be a happy camper.

Pay attention to her body shape, check the size of her clothes and the styles that she likes. More than the lingerie, women love attentive men who appreciate the female form enough to know what would look good on it. Trust me,I am a lady and I know this.

Until next time,watch her put it on, place her in front of the mirror, stand behind her, and slowly render her naked. And remember; shield your soldier before going in i.e please wear a condom#safe sex is the best,say no to unprotected sex.

N.B please guys one last thing,we ladies like to feel SEXY in our lingerie,please dont remove it immediately we wear it please we are begging.Let us wear for atleast few minutes.Thank you.xoxo

New Year Resolutions 2013: Lingerie Edition

Happy New Year People.I am glad we made it.

Now that the days of frantic shopping, over-eating, and excuses for staying in PJ’s all day have come to a screeching halt, (sigh) it’s time to set in stone some serious resolutions for 2013.

Most people will join the gym, pull their “skinny” jeans to the front of the closet, and make promises to go on fad diets that will maybe last until mid February*tongue out*

Well, we are more than happy to announce that this year we have made a resolution to strictly stick to the fun stuff.

Lingerie resolutions - of course!

1-Be Adventurous. Trust us, we love basics more than anyone. But the months of January & February (ahem, Valentine’s Day soon approaching!) are perfect times of the year to wear something extra special underneath.It’s worth it, even if it is just for yourself!

2-Mix it up! Don’t be afraid to mix & match. It’s not always for everybody but mixing & matching your own custom lingerie “set” can be pretty fun and always makes you feel 100% unique! We are always here to help you find just the perfect combination. Just ask!

3-Get a Bra Fitting! It’s time, ladies. You’ve been thinking about it for months now. All of those brand new beautiful tops/dresses you just received as Christmas gifts are going to look so much better with a proper fitting bra underneath! 85% percent of women are wearing the wrong size bra. If you haven’t had a proper fitting in the past year, we are willing to bet you are one of them.

4-Take care of your lingerie collection! The best way to ruin fine lingerie is to throw it in the washing machine without a lingerie wash bag. Stop by our shop to pick up some lingerie wash bag to guarantee them a long happy life.

5-Plan a private lingerie shopping party with girlfriends! Never been to the shop before & feeling a little intimidated by a boutique filled with Lacey underthings and barely-there lingerie sets? Not a problem. Grab a group of girlfriends & bring them in for a private shopping experience. We are here to show you that there’s absolutely nothing to be bashful about.

6-Wear your ‘sexy’ lingerie on a normal day.What’s the point in only saving your special underwear for a special day?Wear your sexiest pieces on a boring Monday and surprise your partner,or just give yourself an ego boost knowing how good you look underneath your clothes!

7-Don't wear your bras for more than one day in a row.Wearing bras for more than one day in a row will stretch the elastic out more than can be recovered in one night.Leave a day between bras so that the elastic has time to recover.

8-Wear ONLY matching underwear
Should you ever be involved in an accident(God forbid) and require assistance from a hunky doctor, the last thing you would want is to be showing off saggy beige granny pants and a clashing bra! Match your underwear to feel co-ordinated, and prepared for anything! Also wear attractive sleepwear.
For me,I've found that on the days that I wear attractive undergarments I often feel more bold and confident, so why wouldn’t the same be true of my sleepwear? Its time to ditch the cartoon flannel pj’s and oversize t-shirts in favour of some more luxury fabrics & elegant details.Hmmm who doesn't like Silk?Perhaps some silky rompers or lace trim microfiber will be just the thing to inspire sweet dreams this year.

9-Buy only lingerie that fits!
Don’t just get it because it’s in the sale! or because your friend or sister has it.If it’s too small or too big then don’t waste your time and money. Get fitted regularly to ensure you are always wearing lingerie that looks amazing, lifts and shapes you, and makes you feel fantastic!

10-Invest in a supportive strapless bra.
Wondering what bra to wear underneath your backless dress?get a strapless bra that is also backless and you are good to go anytime.

11-De-clutter your lingerie drawers.
You know you’re an addict when you can’t properly shut any of the lingerie drawers in your bureau!first step will be discarding the old, ratty & unflattering bras & undies you reserved for desperate times (ie: laundry day, that time of the month, etc.)The second step will be to get rid of all the uncomfortable pieces that you insisted on keeping because they are just so pretty! Goodbye frivolous purchases and hello extra drawer space!

12-Embrace your figure: it’s one-of-a-kind.Lastly, in 2013 we ask you to always embrace your unique self & be confident to wear beautiful lingerie no matter what your shape or size.Love your body,2013 is going to be a great year –We can feel it. A year of enlightenment,happiness & wisdom! I think we should all vow to dispel the judgment we put on our bodies and really focus on what makes us beautiful and sets us apart from others.Let’s stop obsessing about diets,celebrities and our own social standing and focus more on improving ourselves for years to come.We are always here to help you find something that is going to fit not only your figure, but your lifestyle & budget.

Please send us an email to info@pleasurechest.com.ng for specific questions, to schedule a custom bra fitting or to inquire about our private events. Cheers to a New Year!